High Value or High Maintenance

Dating today feels more complicated than ever. Despite endless apps, social media connections, and the promise of unlimited options, genuine relationships remain elusive. Somewhere along the way, the idea of love and partnership has been lost in a maze of expectations, entitlement, and confusion. This book is born out of the raw truths that many avoid speaking aloud—truths about modern dating’s fractured standards, the unspoken wars between men and women, and the fragile balance between value and maintenance in relationships. It is inspired by voices like Kevin Samuels, who dared to address uncomfortable realities, but it also seeks to evolve the conversation—making it accessible, fair, and healing for everyone involved. Whether you identify as a man or woman, single or partnered, this book is for anyone tired of the blame game and ready for honest reflection. It’s about breaking down the illusions, owning our part in the challenges, and building a new standard rooted in respect, accountability, and mutual growth. In these pages, we’ll explore what it really means to be “high value” and why “high maintenance” is often misunderstood. We’ll unpack the pressures men face in a culture that often feels stacked against them and the[…]”